The Gift of Loneliness
Photo by Per Ola Wiberg You never know what you are really writing about. On Monday, I wrote a post called “Just A Feeling: Dealing with Difficult Emotions.” I thought I was writing about the freedom...
View ArticleSubstitute Strengths
Photo by Koshyk I was thinking about people-pleasing the other day – why we do it and why it’s so hard to stop. (I think about people-pleasing often, since I struggle with it and am trying to...
View ArticleThe Place of You
Photo by Jason Pratt “What country, friends, is this?” – Olivia in Shakepseare’s Twelfth Night A person is a person. A person is also a place. In our doing-focused culture, we tend to define...
View ArticleInside Out or Outside In? (Also Known As: Caring Less What They Think)
There comes a time with every coaching client when our work comes down to letting go of what other people will think. We all carry other people’s voices around in our heads, often making it...
View ArticlePrana, Location Independence, and Getting High
Today I’m so happy to be blogging in partnership with two fabulous women, Lianne Raymond and Heather Plett. We’re all writing on the theme of “location dependence” and connection to place. Lianne and...
View ArticleA Poem: Turn Your Palm
Turn Your Palm I invited you in to the mystery with an open hand. I invited you in to the lap of love. I walked you down a golden path and touched your eyelids when you slept. Then I turned away...
View ArticleA Conversation with Ellen Goodman
Well, she is one of the most widely read US women columnists in the United States. She has the ability to sum up a whole movement, a whole era, or a complex reality with a single, perfect line....
View ArticleA Conversation with Ellen Goodman Part 2
Here’s Part 2 of my chat with Pullitzer prize-winning columnist Ellen Goodman. (Read Part 1 here). TARA: Let’s talk more about social change because you’ve both written about it and taken time to...
View Article4 tips for mentoring with excellence
There’s so much conversation about the importance of mentoring, but have you noticed? There’s not a lot of guidance on how to mentor well. Here are four simple practices for mentoring with excellence,...
View Articlewhen you feel jealous…
One of my favorite places to guest write is the Biz Ladies section over at Design Sponge. This week, I’m writing there about what to do when you feel jealous of other women. I feel so sad when I see...
View ArticleThe Lights in the Castle
Last night I had a stunning dream. Against a night sky stood a large castle, shaped like an arc. It seemed timeless. Its form was ancient, but it stood in perfect condition, fresh, smooth ivory...
View ArticleLight-Casting
I had dinner last night with four wonderful women friends. As we sat in a circle around a large round table, it felt just right, as if this is how our spirits sit with one another in some other place...
View ArticleInauguration Day
Change and Your Mind I’ll admit it. I fell asleep to dreamy images of our new first couple dancing across my mind. The scenes of the Inaugural Balls stayed with me after the TV went off, followed me...
View ArticleLoving Reality
In our culture, when we talk about love, we typically talk about loving another person: I love Sonia. I love my grandfather. What do we mean by that? When we love others, we treat them with...
View ArticleEight Ways to Love the People In Your Life
Let them be themselves and run their lives. You worry about your own. Continually and regularly point out to them their brilliance; they don’t see it clearly and they don’t know its immensity. Be...
View ArticleThe Very Simple Way to Enrich Your Holidays
Over the next few days, most of us will be spending time in holiday mode – visiting family, maybe seeing old friends, and bringing in the New Year. I want to share with you one, powerful, very simple...
View ArticleEnding Over-Capacity Living
I know a lot of people who are running on over-drive. Somewhere along the way, life got too full, too busy, too cluttered, too rushed and frantic. The costs of this are high: Everything in life starts...
View ArticleWhy Happy Couples Should Be Apart
Hi there! The adrenalin is flowing through my veins this morning, because I’m so excited to have a guest post, Why Happy Couples Should Be Apart, at one of my favorite favorite favorite blogs, World’s...
View ArticleThe #1 Happiness Vitamin?
I’ve been reading a lot lately about the scientific research on the causes and correlates of human happiness, and there’s some fascinating findings from recent years. Overall, the research about...
View Article80th Birthday Party
I had the best time walking with my friend M yesterday, and I’m still on a high from it. So much laughter and humility and sharing the truth. There’s nothing like being in the presence of someone who...
View Article
More Pages to Explore .....